a manly debate

I've had reason to have a conversation recently about my views on dating. They're rather bleak. To sum it up - I don't.

I've been asked why not and have a number of pat responses... no time, no one interests me, not my focal point as I have such a short period of time with my daughter, etc...

However, upon honest reflection, I would like a rewarding and fulfilling relationship that is able to be supportive and respectful of the priority I place upon the Kidlet and allows all parties to be free and secure in this dynamic. Damn that sounds dry!!

I also think if I met someone I found attractive and desirable my non-dating status would fly out the window.

And now I'm here, on the other side of the world and finding that I am attractive and desirable to a wider range of men than I realized. And I'm enjoying it. I have male friends who want to be more than just friends and I don't know what to say to that. It's rather new. I have close male friends, many close male friends, but they're platonic friends. These don't really want to be.

And rather than getting swept up in the rather complimentary attention I find that I am taking a step back and evaluating myself and them... and trying to see if there's some future potential or if it's a passing fancy. I'm coming up with passing fancy.

Which means, that's not dating. That's transitory from the get-go with no intention of a relationship or even a relationship-like dynamic.

I'm also discovering that may be exactly what I need in my life.